Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Best Selling Author , writes… …
A Relationship Coach for people with self-confidence or self-esteem issues is extremely valuable in answering this following question. Women tend to suffer the most from self-esteem, sense of abandonment and worthiness problems. Life Coach Advice for Women is one way to solve this problem in relationship coaching. Anita asks: “Are some people just meant to be lonely forever”? Anita, since you responded to the survey about love and the Law of Attraction, I am assuming you have been considering creating a relationship for you. Many people choose to keep away from intimate relationships. And that need not be the situation for a person who’s given up because they’ve continuously failed in the past. Not a thing is wrong with wanting to be without an intimate relationship. Life can be fulfilled and fantastic with any choice you make.
As long as you realize you’re choosing that rather than giving up out of frustration that you have not met the relationship of a lifetime. You can acquire it all in a relationship and in life.
If you could see yourself from the point of view of Source or your Inner Being, or Higher Self, you would see a wonderful, fantastic, brilliant, connected consciousness. Then life begins to happen around us. Our oblivious parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to teach us, tell us from the beginning what we need to watch out for, warn us, caution us, and attempt to protect us, effectively having us adhere to their fears and projections of insecurity instead of tuning in to our own guidance. OK, I will give you as simple new children we do require protection. Fine. But soon following they learn to function by themselves, self-actualization should be part of the training for the little ones.
Well-intentioned guides want to do the correct thing so they guide, caution, admonish, and instil fear in young ones to make them behave. This only underscores a level of insecurity and inability. The feeling of not-enoughness gets instilled as a child.
Neurological research now tells us that before the age of 7, we are so open and receptive, we have no filtering ability at all. We go around in a kind of hypnagogic trance and become impressed with whatever comes into our life experience. It is not a wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misguided, beliefs about an imperfect nature. By the time we’re 6 years old, we have heard the word “NO” approximately 60,000 times. Look out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, do not do that. The subliminal communication says you’re unworthy, you can’t trust you, you don’t know what you’re doing, and so on.
Our parents and elders were indeed well-meaning. They simply wanted our well-being. But you can see how simply we have been trained away from our inherent greatness and brilliance.
I recommend that you go easy with yourself and let yourself have a break. First off, it is not your fault. It is not even the fault of your elders. They were programmed the same way too. You can stop this perpetration of low self-esteem on yourself and everyone you know. You deserve to have anything your heart desires.
Do your very best to express yourself appreciation and self-acceptance. Treat yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The truth is, the Universe appreciates, Spirit adores you, and your Inner Being adores you. Why? Because you ARE perfect. And that IS the reality!
